How Tikkun HaBriet is Unique
Tikkun HaBriet Is Very Different Than Other Marriage Programs
Some spouses resist the idea of attending the program out of concern that they will be required to expose their personal lives. This will not happen. In fact, the program is entirely unique, and most couples find that this is the very thing that worked when all else failed. We are told constantly that this is one of the best kept secrets in the world, and couples regularly comment that they wish they had done the program long before they did; that it would have saved them so much pain and anguish.
It is NOT That Kind of Retreat
It is not a recreational retreat, seminar, social gathering or religious conversion experience.
It is a structured program designed to help you and your spouse learn communication skills that will put you in tune with one another.
This is not a vacation weekend for the two of you, but rather a program to help your marriage get back to where it was meant to be. You will be working on your marriage and communication skills, and there will be very little downtime during the weekend. Our goal is to help your marriage, not to provide escape or distraction from your situation.
It is NOT Marriage Counseling
There are no marriage counselors at our programs. The weekend is presented by three couples and a Rabbi, Cantor or other Jewish scholar. The team couples are volunteers, who have experienced disillusionment, pain, anger, and conflict in their own marriages.
They offer hope as they share their personal stories of struggle, reconciliation and healing. You will find courage and strength in the realization that you are not alone in your struggle.
The interaction is between you and your spouse, not a counselor. There is no mediating of any kind. In fact, while a marriage counselor asks you to share your troubles with them, our presenters will be sharing their stories with you.
It is NOT a Sensitivity Group
This is not a program with the goal of making people more aware of their own prejudices and more sensitive to others. The weekend is about you and your spouse, and nothing more.
We do not have group activities, team building, or any other shared participation exercises that try to change you or make you into something you are not. Rather, it is about you learning a new way to understand your spouse, and your spouse to understand you.
It is unlike anything you may have seen on TV or the movies, or any other conventional program you are likely to have tried or heard of in the past.
It is NOT Group Counseling
While there are other couples in the program, it is by no means group counseling. You will not be asked to share your problems with anyone else. There are neither group dynamics nor group discussions on the weekend.
100% of the two-way communication is between you and your spouse. Other than that, you are hearing the powerful and moving stories of the presenting couples.